A true friend stands by you no matter what, good and bad times. But many people feel that the true test of friendship is when we face the challenging times, the hard disappointments and pain. Who is there for us?
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is for adversity.” – Proverbs 17:17
BUT, WAIT. WHO ARE WE THERE FOR?
Friendship is a two-sided relationship. Let’s take time to examine ourselves before we grade our friends. How do we measure up as a friend?
I admit that I mess up miserably sometimes. I don’t always recognize when my friends need me. It’s usually those times that I am so wrapped up in ME that I have blinders on to those in my peripheral world. And for that I am ashamed. When I do realize I have short changed a friendship, I should admit it to that friend, apologize and move forward with her. But I don’t want those times to happen at all.
SO, HOW CAN I NURTURE MY FRIENDSHIPS?
I should pray for my friendships daily, just like praying for my family. After all, my best friends are extended family. I should pray for their welfare and pray for wisdom to recognize when and where they need me. As I stay focused in daily prayer for those I love, the Holy Spirit will keep me nudged about things I cannot see.
“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” – Proverbs 27:17
MAYBE YOU’RE READING THIS AND THINKING, ‘WELL, I DO NOT HAVE ANY FRIENDS, OR I AM STRUGGLING TO KEEP REAL FRIENDSHIPS.
I understand. I have been there, my friend. I have tried in the past to choose friends without God’s leading and the result was not good. Those relationships not hand-picked by God resulted in disappointments, chaos, stress and even heartache at times. Not everyone we meet who shares our same interests, goals, and seasons of life is designed by God to be our friend. Remember, Satan wants friends, too!
Don’t give up! God has handpicked the perfect people for your circle of life. Pray for the discernment to recognize those people. God knows who and what we need in our lives long before we do. We must be willing to let Him show us in His own time. And while waiting, let’s pray and study God’s word about how to be a true friend to her when she shows up.
If we stay focused on God, stay in prayer, seek to be a good friend and God will lead us to our true friends (they may already be an acquaintance). When we put God in our friendships, life gets better!